Sunday, December 30, 2007

Farewell my Friend, Roby Duke

It is with deep sadness that I write this. A dear and close friend, Roby Duke, died of a massive heart attack on December 26th 2007. Part of me feels that it must be a mistake. Maybe Roby is hiding out somewhere having an eclectic fit or something. That would be 'so Roby'. But today, it hit me like a ton of reality-bricks that Roby has truly left the building. He just can't be contained and he would be making incredible songs in God's presence while 'touching His face'. Roby was one of those in my life that truly shaped a part of who I am. We have a long working history that turned into a strange, deep relationship. I just want to write down what I can remember of my time with Roby to the best of my memory. Sorry in advance if it isn't eloquent enough. It would never capture the experience of knowing Roby completely but hopefully it will help you understand my friend, well, our friend for those who knew him.

I first met Roby when I was on staff at Calvary Chapel West Covina. I was responsible for weekly Sunday night concerts and outreaches. In the early 80's, Roby moved from Mississippi and had recorded his first Album 'Not the Same'. I remember thinking he sounded like Kenny Logins but with a lot more R&B. I decided to book him for a concert and that is how we met and began our long friendship. Roby became a favorite at Calvary WC. Eventually Roby came on tour with us as we traversed across the US visiting various cities such as Chicago, Albuquerque, New York, New Jersey, Philadelphia, Hawaii and more. I eventually pitched Roby's song 'Come Let us Reason' for the new theme song of the daily bible study radio program 'Manna for Today'. It was a big hit and soon Roby, myself and the team were inseparable.

Roby was perfect for these trips because he was 'compact.' Just him and his guitar and his honest humor. But Roby was bigger than any band out there. Roby could captivate a crowd effortlessly with his open and honest style. I look back at those trips with fondness. I remember Roby teaching me chord progressions and finger styles while we sat in hotel rooms. And the time the speaker was 'high' on sudafed and we were off stage just laughing at what was coming out of his mouth - but even then people got saved!! We both knew it was God and not the messenger. They were so fun and Roby and I used to laugh so much at situations we saw in 'ministry'. It was either laugh or cry. We decided to laugh to keep sane.

We also met so many great people out there. Especially on the east coast. We both fell in love with the people because they spoke their mind (whether you liked it or not). I remember driving down 5th Ave in NYC with Roby at the wheel of our rented van. And he decided I should drive. So he got up out of the drivers seat and told me to take over! 'What?' I thought as I quickly jumped over to take control of the van. But one time in NYC, Roby's back went out severely. So much so, I had to help him to the toilet so he could pee. Even in his pain, he told me grinning: 'okay, help me aim' as we both stood at the toilet. I was laughing and he was both laughing and crying (from the pain). A doctor came and gave him a high dose of codeine for the pain. He also told Roby in his jamaican accent, 'a lil cocaine would do da trick mon'. Thankfully Roby passed on that one.

Around 1983, we did an outreach at the Shrine Auditorium featuring 3 acts: 'Glad', jazz legends, 'Koinonia' and Roby. I called the concert 'Somebody Loves You LA'. I remember on the night, Roby thought I was crazy because I wanted him to close the concert after Koinonia's set. Roby thought - How am I supposed to top Abraham Laborial? In perfect Roby style, without missing a beat, he came out and started 'slapping' his guitar mimicking Abe's bass slapping style. The crowd of 6,500+ (max capacity) loved it and Roby was a hit! Of course having Koinonia which was an instrumental jazz band playing at a Christian outreach was very out-of-the-box to begin with. But Roby was the element that brought it all together. As the years rolled by, anytime I could use Roby's music, I would. In fact, his song 'I shall See God' was used as the closing song of a documentary I directed called 'A Quiet Hope'.

I got the opportunity to design his album covers including 'Blue Eyed Soul', 'Down to Business' and the CD re-release of his 1st album 'Not the Same'. It was an honor and a blast to be part of that. If ever there is a greatest Hits album, sign me up! Roby always pushed me to do better, be more creative and today I owe him a lot for that.

I learned a lot from Roby. One lesson he taught me was to not hold on to anything too tightly. Roby was a very giving person. I remember being on a trip and he saw I was eyeing his cassette walkman (remember those things? They were so small and cool). Well Roby just turned and gave it to me. 'Here you go, you take it, I'll get a something better'. Ever since, I have tried to be much the same because of his example. Of course, Roby had the habit of giving away stuff that didn't belong to him too. Like the time he borrowed my Fishman pre-amp and I never got it back. In fact, this story says it all: A friend of mine, Andrew, here in Melbourne told me he met Roby when he came down to Australia with Doug Murin. He remembers checking out Roby's hot pink guitar cable/lead and thought how cool it was. Roby, told him, 'here, take it, it's yours'. Andrew thought, 'how cool of him'. Then later, Roby walked up to Doug and said 'Oh by the way, I gave your pink cable to Andrew'. He just laughed as he walked away. That is sooo Roby. I miss him.

I remember when things in ministry life became very hard for me. Roby was there just to listen and make light of the situations. He didn't try to fix it, just tried to get me to 'lighten up' some. He knew first hand how crazy some of the large churches could be. Insecure pastors that were manic and destructive. We used to have some deep talks and we used to say 'Let's get 6 feet under' and we would talk honestly about things & issues. I don't think I spoke more open to anyone else on this planet than Roby. When I was going through the darkest time in my life, Roby happened to be here in Melbourne and I found out that he was also going through similar things. Needles to say, we went '6 foot under' and spoke honestly. There was a lot of good from it. Not sure if I could call it healing but it was invaluable. Although he wouldn't think so, he was a mystery and grace followed him like a blood hound. I know God loved him so much because he was so honest. More honest than the ministries we worked with and the record companies that took advantage of him. I am loving hearing that Roby was beginning to perform for Christians again. The community needs more like Roby. The world is worse off without him, but heaven must be rockin'. Like Roby told my wife recently "Pete is one of my best co-horts in our developing years (&) given what we experienced in the church culture, it is a miracle that we would ever bow our heads again."

Ironically, I had recently re-visited some of Roby's music before the news of his death. Stuff I haven't listened to in ages. The music is so beautiful and moving and deep and most of all, timeless. Roby was a master songwriter. I remember speaking with Roby about how many in the 'industry' told him he just doesn't have the 'look' to cut it. Talent? Sure; Songwriting? you bet; Voice? Perfect; Looks? Too bad, you just wouldn't sell records, next?. He was so hurt by it but used to just joke about it. I hated the fact that people treated him that way. In fact, his transparent nature is what strikes a chord at his concerts. People felt safe and more determined to be honest with God. That was Roby and after seeing him play, you just wanted to be that honest too.

Man, I miss him . . .

Some of his songs hit so close to home, I would just lose it when listening to them. I think I will refrain from pulling them out at the moment. For those who haven't heard of him or heard his music, here are some youTube videos of a couple of recent performances. Please take the time to watch and enjoy! Also visit: http://robyduke.com/



Friday, December 28, 2007

Happy Holidays!

Hope you had a great Christmas and, as I write this, 2008 is only days away! Can't believe it myself! Don't we feel that every year? Time is slipping away so fast. In fact, it has been so long since I last posted a blog, I thought I'd better get another in before the new year arrives.

Our Christmas was spent in Queensland (Dec 18 - 27). We had an awesome time on the Gold Coast in Queensland! We took our good friend Yvonne from California and she had a blast. We stayed in Broadbeach (south of Surfer's Paradise) in a brand new high rise apartment called Ultra. The views were amazing and the apartment was beautiful.

Of course, I got sick a bit with a flu, so I had a day and a half in bed but at least I had a view of the beach! Eventually I was able to join the land of the living. The weather wasn't typical QLD weather but there was enough sun for me to get burned! And the waves were fun too.

Jude experienced his first 'wipeout'! Couldn't find his body under the whitewater for about 2 seconds! He came up looking frazzled and said 'I wan't mommy' . . . no crying or coughing, just 'I want mommy'! It was so funny. Jude loved the beach.

We did a lot of eating and drinking and eating and, did I say drinking? Yvonne can drink! She is lovely when she is sober. Otherwise - look out! I thought Aussies can put it away, but she was a big surprise.

Of course, there was plenty of shopping and we were only 10 minute walk away from Pacific Fair shopping centre. All good fun!

We left on the 27th. Good timing because a possible cyclone was about to hit Gold Coast! And arriving back in Melbourne to +30ยบ sunshine! Welcome home!

Despite some of the hiccups, we had a great time and are already looking for a way to get back up there! I hope you all had a great Christmas and may 2008 be an awesome year filled with blessings and challenges!









































Friday, December 7, 2007

Hawaii 5-0

Yes it is true, I am 50! And to help me celebrate it, about 70 friends and I hung out under the stars in our lil back yard! December 1st, What a night! It was decked out in the Hawaiian theme complete with tiki torches, surf videos, longboards and everyone wore some sort of Hawaiian shirt/dress thing. My actual birthday was Nov 23rd. The special thing about it was that instead of receiving gifts, we raised money for Watoto in Uganda. I am so proud and thankful to say that we raised over $2000 so far. Many others are wanting to add to the kitty too.

Special thanks to Sharon for coordinating everything behind my back (it is hard to keep secrets from me - mostly because she cannot tell a lie); to Wendy Lee who created the invite and also a beautiful canvas that people wrote well wishes on and it had some beautiful 'Hawaiian' illustrations on it - very nice; to Birgitte & Kathy & Joe & John for helping in the kitchen and dishing it out to people; to Adrian Dogget who decked the place out with some cool lighting, a screen and AV stuff; to Steve McQueen who created an awesome slide show; to Heidi who made such a cool cake! And of course to all who came! We had such a great time. I also want to thank my family in the States for that great video surprise - blew me away! Thanks so much.

Here are some shots of the night:

70 people is such a small backyard!
Plenty of finger food dished out by Joe
Cheers!
Alfred & Anton: nice guys when they're sober (joking)
B, Bindi and Wendy

Todd, Billie, Emma & Jack

Adrian, Brett, Marion, Michael & Tina

Peter Hynes enjoying the Pina Coladas - make mine straight up

Awesome cake!
Looks like a prom shot from high school
The token Californian looking Jet Lagged (Yvonne arrived that day)
After Midnight . . .
Kathy & Joe
Me & my Sharon